"How To Be A 3% Man" by Corey Wayne

Book Summary:

“How To Be A 3% Man, Winning The Heart Of The Woman Of Your Dreams” by Corey Wayne teaches readers the hidden secrets to understanding women. The book covers both dating and long term relationships.

As an adult, Corey Wayne reached financial success early in his life but still struggled in the dating department. He would get 2-3 dates max and then the women would never want to see him again or just wanted to be friends with him. So, he spent several years reading, researching, practicing, and interviewing men who were successful with women to learn their secrets.

He now shares the lessons he’s learned through his book, blog posts and YouTube channel (which has over 300K+ subscribers).

Key Book Lessons:

  • Dates are opportunities to get to know one another and get intimate.

    • BAD dates: loud clubs, movies, concerts

    • GOOD dates: bars, coffee, art museums, mini-golf (you need places where you can talk and build a connection–go to nice, fun and inexpensive places).

      • On the date, look for signs of growing attraction: eye contact, touching, questions from her. The more physical touch there is from a woman, the more likely it is she wants to kiss you.

  • Allow women to do the majority (70-80%) of the talking.

    • You are there to get to know her and relationships are built on sharing personal details about oneself.

      • Unless a woman directly asks you a question about yourself, don’t talk much about yourself. Women who are interested in you will want to know more about you and ask you questions.

  • Keep the conversation positive, uplifting and interesting.

    • Positive topics elicit positive feelings. Even if a girl asks about your ex and your ex was crazy, say something nice about her and change the topic.

      • It’s good to share personal details but don’t dump all of your emotional baggage on her at once.

  • Women are like cats, men are like dogs.

    • Women need more time to build up a level of attraction and many will run away if pursued too quickly. Guys fall in love quickly because they are visual creatures but remember it isn’t the same for women. Give her time to get to know you and develop an emotional connection.

      • Women enjoy a challenge and a chase. Often times, the harder it is to get something, the more value we feel it has.

  • Common mistakes guys make:

    • Falling in love with women they haven’t even met or known for less than a week– women are likely much different than the fantasy image playing in your mind.

    • Don’t pressure her into a commitment, when she feels ready, she’s bring up the “what are we” or “marriage” conversation.

    • Buying gifts for women early on–it comes off as a bribe for sex and may be showing too much attraction when she hasn’t had time to grow her feelings for you.

      • If you’re not in a relationship with her, don’t buy her any gifts.

  • Don’t be needy or desperate.

    • Wait a few days before you text or call her, or until she reaches out to you. You should be busy with life and have other priorities.

      • If a woman’s attraction level towards you lowers, so should your interest and attention towards her. Give her space and time, don’t over pursue or put too much pressure on her.

        • The strongest negotiation position is the ability to walk away and not look back.

  • If a woman cancels a date without bringing up another time or rescheduling, it’s a sign of low attraction.

    • The more a woman likes you, the easier she will make it for you two to get together and the less “games” she will play.

      • If she tries to change plans, unless it is an emergency, it’s probably best to cancel the date: “It sounds like it’s not a good time to get together so let’s just do it another night.”

  • After a date, wait 2-3 days before planning the next one.

    • You want to give her time to think and wonder about you.

      • Aim to date once a week until she starts to initiating contact and reaching out to you.

  • Many women test men by not calling or responding to their texts:

    • They are trying to find out if you’re needy. It can be a few days or 2 weeks before they get back to you. (I found this to be true on multiple occasions).

      • If a woman is contacting you, assume she wants to see you.

  • Minimize talking on phone or text:

    • Men are more likely to talk themselves out of a woman’s attraction than into it.

      • Also, talking on the phone also gives you a 0% chance of becoming physical or intimate. You can’t kiss her over the phone. Once you’re girlfriend/boyfriend, then feel free to spend time communicating over the phone.

  • When a woman is talking about her problems say: “Do you want my advice or do you just want me to listen?”

    • When a woman says “everything is fine” it likely isn’t. Try to think if you’ve done anything wrong recently and ask her to communicate her feelings.

      • Communication is the most important part of a relationship. If a woman doesn’t communicate, keeps things to herself or gets physically violent, all are red flags and she may not be worth dating long term.

  • It is not what a woman says, but what she does that you must pay attention to.

    • Read her actions, not her words.

      • Woman have developed subtle ways to reject men to avoid direct conflict and aggressive recoil from men.

  • Attraction is not a destination, it is a journey that lasts forever. You must be a good man and boyfriend for as long as you two are together.

    • Keep dating a woman until she brings up the girlfriend conversation. Keep treating her as your girlfriend till she brings up the marriage conversation. Once married, keep dating her and watch her attraction level for as long as you two are together.

Book Review:

“How To Be A 3% Man, Winning The Heart Of The Woman Of Your Dreams” by Corey Wayne may seem like a sketchy book, and trust me I was skeptical at first, but I went into it with an open mind and was thoroughly surprised by the number of valuable lessons I learned from it.

Think about it, there are improvement book in every field, whether it is becoming a better artist, musician, or writer, why can’t people also read books on dating and become better at dating and relationships?

Dating is one of those things most parents don’t teach, nor is it a class taught in high school or college. But everyone deserves a chance at finding love and being with their soulmate, so why not read books on dating and become better at it?

And this isn’t only my point of view here, Corey Wayne’s book has 1,600+ reviews on Amazon with an average rating of 4.7/5 stars. Give this book a chance before you judge it, I’m positive you’ll enjoy reading it and also learn valuable lessons along the way.

Rating: 4.5/5 Stars

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